Have you ever found yourself clinging to a moment that hasn’t happened yet?
You replay conversations in your head. You fantasize about the day someone finally takes responsibility. The moment they say, “I’m sorry, I hurt you. I see it now.”
You imagine how your lungs might finally fill with air again. How you’d be able to breathe without the weight on your chest.
Because surely, that one acknowledgment would make everything right.
But what if it never comes?
You might be waiting a lifetime for the penny to drop.
And here’s the truth I’ve learned—not just from clients, but from my own lived experience:
You will never get closure from a toxic person.
💔 The Illusion of Closure
When someone has deeply wounded you, your mind looks for a way to make sense of it. It’s part of the brain’s natural healing response.
So you wait.
You hope.
You think maybe if I’m kind enough… quiet enough… patient enough… they’ll eventually see.
But toxic people are wired differently. They may never see. They may never own what they’ve done.
And the longer you wait for them to fix it, the longer you stay stuck in the very cycle that’s breaking you.
🧠 Emotional Reality: Why We Hold On
- We are wired for meaning.
- We want justice—even if it’s just an apology.
- We think closure has to come from them.
But the only closure that heals is the kind that comes from within.
🕊️ The Hard but Holy Truth
Peace doesn’t wait for “I’m sorry.”
Healing begins the moment you stop needing them to understand.
You don’t need their validation to begin your recovery.
You don’t need their awareness to protect your peace.
The longer you hold your breath for a moment that may never come, the more you give power to the one who hurt you.
🌱 A New Kind of Closure
Closure isn’t a conversation. It’s a decision.
It’s the moment you say:
- “I don’t need you to make this right.”
- “I’m choosing to make me whole.”
- “I forgive you—not for your sake, but for mine.”
- “You don’t have to be sorry. I’m setting myself free.”
💬 Journal Prompts
- What conversation are you waiting for that may never happen?
- How would it feel to stop waiting and start healing?
- What could closure look like if it came only from you and God?
🧠 Focus Keyphrase: closure from a toxic person
Healing doesn’t depend on someone else’s awareness—it depends on your willingness to step out of the cycle.
📌 Quote to Remember:
“Closure is not a door they close. It’s a key you use to walk out.”